Nothing is more frustrating than feeling like you’re stuck. Whether it’s stuck in your habits, stuck in a job, or stuck with a reputation, the feeling is defeating, confining, and quite depressing. I’m slowly realizing that everyone feels this way from time to time, but that doesn’t make it any easier. We all need a game plan for getting back on track. Here’s mine…
1 – Feel Your Feelings and Express Them Freely.
As sobering as it is to step on the scale after Thanksgiving weekend, admitting to myself that I feel stuck is a splash of cold water to the face. And I can’t just tell myself. I have to tell a few others. You know those friendships where you don’t have to say hello or goodbye—you just pick up where you left off? I go to those friends and tell them what’s bothering me. Simply getting the words out of my mouth motivates me to do something about feeling stuck.
2 – Mix Up Your Routine.
We are collections of our habits. Tony Robbins can get us jacked up with emotion, but after the glow of excitement wears off, we’re back to our habits and routines—which often feel boring. So, wake up earlier, stop binging on Netflix, listen to a different type of podcast, put the phone down in the waiting room, pray all day for someone else, or just crank up some Def Leppard. Any of those will at least change the way you feel about your life today.
3 – Shine the Light on Someone Else.
When I feel stuck, it’s usually because I’m too self-focused. Each day is an opportunity to help someone else. Hanging on the wall in my office is this quote by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.: “Everybody can be great, because everybody can serve.” Even if you hate your job or you can’t make sense of your life, doing something for someone else will take the spotlight off of your own problems and will serve as a reminder that today is not about me!
I hope these ideas are useful when you feel the need to get unstuck.